things that were pressure or pursuit before, are NOT the same now.
Your sitch if further along. And you continue to defend what to ME, is clearly wrong actions on your end.
I don't want to belabor the point but I know you do. That part of you has not changed. You will try to outlast the person disagreeing so you can feel you "Won" but the thing is, I have other things to do with my time.
If you can't see what we see, it's not us who suffer.
I find it interesting how you STILL BLAME Your wife for this divorce while pretending not to, it's just cognitive dissonance in you.
Your were a critical jerk as a h, and that's NOT what you tell other people when they bash her. You tell them your wife is "making tough choices, was not happy" and you feign some compassion.
But it's an act. And I see thru it. You are angry and I predict you will always blame her, you will always see the glass half empty and have an excuse for not changing.
Getting help to change and learn to be a better man, or attending a workshop that can change your life, is "too expensive"?
I can't think of anything I'd rather spend money on. But you can...
Stop pretending that your daughter would never have suffered if your m had continued as it was. And that your wife is doing this to you AND d...
your critical commentary would probably have landed on your d, eventually. But even if not, seeing you put your wife down so often and belittling her (as you still do) would have harmed your d in many ways. Maybe She'd marry someone emotionally abusive. That would be something she saw growing up.
Since I don't sense a lot of change in you or your attitude toward your w here, which I think is real, then I don't see why she'd want to reconcile.
All your claims notwithstanding, marriage to you now would probably be a lot like it was before, b/c you STILL blame HER, and you do revert to anger when you are hurt.
Thing is there are "hurt moments" in every single marriage. Does not give you the right to go to anger every time but you STILL do.
Lovingly asserting yourself as a father on Father's Day is not pressure or pursuit. You could have told your wife you planned something. You could have said you'd drop d by gramps for awhile, AND OR stay with her while seeing him off...but get her yourself so w would not have to leave to return her to you. Instead of you just defending every act, THINK about what we are saying and the big picture here.
No more quibbling. Life is too short to enjoy these endless scoring contests.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
