Its a fence with the sharp pointed ends too! We are still living together, sleep in the same bed,she has never used the word divorce, but at the same time she has no clue of what she wants from minute to minute. I think in her case, the depression, is from having to make a decision of whether to make a commitment to the marriage or break up 21 years of marriage and our family.
Like you, to look at our spouses in this condition hurts, the pain they must be going thru, but at the same time, the hurt they're putting us/family thru. Its hard to be around, and no matter what im doing, it still affects me. I know I cant fix it, but I want to help, its so hard to not go there. Its the "why cant they see whats happening" syndrome I guess.
The recent emotions of wanting to get away are recent, and according to Chuck a normal process in our own justification. I'm gonna pop over and for sure, read your thread. The more insight I gather, the more I realize unfortunetly this is almost common place. How sad is that. I know walking away would be the biggest mistake I could make but that darn patience thing is my biggest obstacle. With my IC, its the thing im working on the most/hardest, its something I need to change about myself, not just with the marriage.
