Well it sounds like you're following DB'ing principals pretty well, so stick with it. But I sense that you're looking for quick results and you're just not going to get them. You have to be VERY patient. It sounds like you've done some soul searching and implemented several much-needed changes. That's a great step, but your H is going to think they're just tricks to get him back. It's important to stick with your changes for the long haul. It'll take months before he starts believing that you've really changed.
As for his parents, you've got to set aside your anger and bitterness over them. You have no control over them at all, so there's no use in getting worked up over it. If it's true that they're filling your H with a lot of negative thoughts about you, then your job is to SHOW him something else. Be the spouse only a fool would leave. Good luck!
