Think wife is having a MLC?

[chasingpavements]

Hi there, just read through your thread and your situation, and feelings, seem to be similar to what I am going through (check out my thread if you wish). My husband dropped the "I'm not in love with you anymore" bomb back in February. Since then we had counseling (didn't help) and have since stopped going. A few weeks ago he told me he wanted to separate. Then the next day he was on the fence again. We have been in a strange limbo ever since where we are living together but don't know if we are separating, if that makes since.

My husband has been depressed over this, and I am having the same kind of feelings and worries as you are. It is hard to ignore when you are around your spouse and they constantly look worried/sad/depressed. Frankly, it is bring me down as well. Is that how you are also feeling? Do you think your wife is depressed due to the state of your marriage or other reasons? I think my husband is feeling so sad due to worrying about our relationship and the fact that he feels he does not love me.

It is definitely hard staying in this limbo while being married to someone, and not knowing whether it will work out or not. I know you mentioned you feel better someones when you are not around your spouse lately...that is how I have been feeling as well. Yesterday I could not even stand to be in the same house as my husband.. I just had to get away! lol.

Going through all of this seems to have such as negative effect on the LBS.. almost to the point where we feel like walking away. I think we should stay strong and keep at the 180s. It is tempting to want to walk away, but time and patience seems to be what we need.

Sorry for rambling. If you have any questions for me let me know..and keep at it!
Have a good day.