One boundary that is being crossed by me that I am having a hard time getting my balls up to address is her texting "guy" friends and hiding it from me. I don't like it. I feel its disrespectful and rude
Read through others' sitches here, could be worse, and making a big deal out of it will probably make it MORE attractive to her if I understand where she's at right now, and justify it in her mind (PON is such a control freak, so insecure, I need this just to get a break from him <-- my W said this, btw, in the early days when I was trying to get her to stop her activities). It's like a teenager, you tell them they can't do something, sure enough they WILL be sure to do it! Gotta be independent from Mom/Dad! (well, I was like that at least when I was a teenager)
Let it go, PON, ignore it...give THAT to your higher power for sure, it is out of YOUR control...sorry.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
