I really feel gypped: I gave up everything to start a new life together with someone who on countless occasions pulled my face towards hers and told me we were going to stay together forever. I grew up seeing Ds allaround me and I never, ever wanted that to happen to me. I thought I had found someone who shared that commitment to work things out and stay together through thick and thin. I was wrong.
She had some kind of MLC, she took refuge at work from a hectic home life with four kids (including twin toddlers), and suddenly she is assigned a new assistant manager who sees in her a younger, attractive distraction from his own R problems in his own (2nd) M and starts professing his feelings for her. It's flattering, a bit forbidden, and she begins to be taken in by the feeling of freedom and enjoys the escape from her feelings of being unappreciated at home.
Meanwhile I'm so wrapped up in caring for the kids and being jealous of my time to work on my own business that I don't see the signs that my W was pulling away. Again, I suppose I relied to heavily on the dream that we would always be together and focussed too much on a day that was not too far away that the twins would be heading to school and we would be able to work on becoming those same 2 people in a committed relationship that we once were.
I don't blame the OM for our problems, but I despise the b*****d just the same. If it weren't for him, perhaps we could have been working things through all this time. Instead she spent the past few months sneaking around, lying to me, and tearing our family apart. I want my W back.
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13