Good stuff with your son, CB. Yes, we do need to find balance. I would venture that you, like me, tend to zero in on what we "think" is the high priority issue to keep the family "business" solvent...but we learn that the "business" has other needs that need attending to as well, while the main issue works its' course, know what I mean?
Your W sounds like she is in a "withdrawal" stage (from HB's "Stages")...My W has done this many times, usually it signals a change in her is imminent (sometimes for the better, sometimes for "less than ideal"). Best to roll with it as it emerges, accept who she is, where she is, at this moment in time...it'll change again most likely...I found the metaphor of a teenager who is trying different "identity" things...eg, preppy, goth, punk, jock, etc. helpful...and I went through that with my oldest son just before W got going full steam with her journey...seems to fit pretty well... T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
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