Been awhile..

[Jeack]

Thank you sp I'm not trying to keep my hopes up but I really do love this girl. Just was really in the mind set of ending things. Well see what happens. I have no expectations

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Well she's coming to the house tomorrow. Supposedly to talk about the divorce. Pretty nerve racking. Last week I'm full steam ahead with getting a D. Now this

[Jeack]

I just can't figure out why if she's so happy with OM she's trying to be friends??

This is going to sound harsh.....

Why wouldn't she be your friend? She doesn't have vested interest in you as a spouse (at least not in her mind right now), she is not attached to you emotionally. If she can retain you as a friend, a lot of her guilt will be diminished. She gets to live her fantasy life with OM, plus she doesn't have to feel bad about hurting you. It's a win win for W.

Makes sense. Why do I do everything a$$ backwards? So all I'm doing is making her life easier. I thought I was actually doing the right thing by being friendly

[Jeack]

That's great! Let her come. Show her how confident and fun you are. Show her your 180's. Keep it light. Don't take the conversation toward relationship talk or especially divorce talk, unless she initiates. And even if she does, validate, listen and don't add your two cents, just listen and validate. That is your role in that scenario.

Man, you have a real opertunity in front of you. Plan for it. Get your head in the game and show her a man that only a fool would leave.

Your right. Just trying not to have any expectations at all and treat it as a old friend coming to visit. Going to be the first time seeing her in over 2 months.

[Jeack]

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Any advice on how to handle tomorrow since i seem to do the complete opposite of what i'm suppose to?

[Jeack]

So your original intention didn't go through either. It's too late to do anything about it now. But from here on out you can't be too accommodating.

Any advice on how to handle her coming over tonight?

[MrBond]

What is your plan in terms of paperwork? Get that out of the way first. Then take it slow with the conversation.