How to proceed with angry, almost-walkaway H?

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Thanks for your support, Amy and Adinva. *hugs* Looks like there are different definitions of validation. I've got a lot to learn.

Right now, I'm trying to stay calm and gather my thoughts about what to do next. My plan is to continue to DB while he's still at home. PMA and 180s will continue. Step up on the GAL.

Lots of questions:

1. I don't know how to behave around him anymore. Do I stay friendly? Or should I be short on words and look busy? Do we still hang out and go out to eat/movies like we usually do on weekends? If I'm friendly, won't he think that I'm totally ok with him giving up on our M and moving out. Last night, I think I gave him the impression that I'm ok (and understand) his decision to move out.

2. Maybe I can bring up the possibility of a trial separation for 3 months, instead of the "separation" that he's asking for. Is that considered pursuit? Any thoughts, anyone?

3. I'm still wondering whether I should confront him about OW. Right now, he has experienced ZERO consequences for his cheating / bad behaviour. He's said his giving up on our M has nothing to do with OW (false). I'm not entirely ok with that. I know that there won't be any remorse but at least he'll have to own up to the fact that he lied to me these 3 months. Part of me STILL wants to ask him to give us a real shot, without OW in the picture. Is that a bad idea to ask him?

Sorry, my thoughts are not coherent now…