New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Hi F,

Thanks for the words of encouragement they really do help!!
I have printed out Sandi2s list and keep it close by. I have also been researching validating and have learned some interesting things. Its funny how in the past when my wife was talking my mind would be wondering and i never really thought to stop and listen properly, this would cause arguements later down the line when she would wonder why i hadnt 'picked up this', 'posted that' etc. I have started stopping whatever i am doing, maintain eye contact and really listen without chipping in with advice (something i used to do alot). Early days yet but i plan to keep it up regardless of the situation.
I have been keeping my distance (in a nice way) and keeping busy on me, i do find this particularly difficult as my gut tells me to talk more, these last few days her moods havent been the best and i try not to let that bring me down. I have arranged a night out with the guys on friday night which i am looking forward to, however it does seem that its getting like a competion, she is now going out on saturday with her friends, is this a normal reaction?
The sleeping situation is something that is troubling me at the moment.... I am sleeping on the sofa downstairs, part of me thinnks i should man up and move back to our bed and let her make other arrangements however i dont want to rock the boat at this delicate stage. She has offered to swap night by night but the gentleman in me says not matter what happens i wouldnt let someone i love sleep on the sofa, that just isnt me. I could go out and buy a pop up bed that would be more comfortable however i dont want this to come across as a long term soloution when i might be fairly close to a better place, any thougts would be a help.

Thanks Guys!!!