Hoper1's story..

[hoper]

So tremors in MLC land..

Unfortunately all my doing..

After H put up pics of vacation (only his and S).. i ruminated whether to put them up..

I resisted the idea..
Things were chugging along slowly i decided to put them up .. 2 of them were family pics..and then explosion..

H texts me furiously from work..
"why did you do that ..take them down..
i now refuse to do anything with you..infact cancelling plans made with friends right now..i clicked so that s does not wonder...u asked for them.. " on and on..

I just replied since i do not comment on what he puts up to please let me be...

he says u are free to put up urs and s but to please delete the family pic as there is no need to show the world the fake picture..

i did no such thing.. though i agree its fake this is my world although right now it is how i hope it would be..he stayed furious for about a day and a half...

the same friends whom we had plans with informed him they are exiting a group chat which included h and me because h was talking like a dumb teenager pulling them up for something stupid and that they did not enjoy it and that they need not tolerate it..
this stunned H .. he called them up , apologized and they came back..
i was so happy atleast someone could get an apology from H..
he has started smoking..having severe job stress..
does not share any of it with me...

Also OW comments on a family pic and a pic of me alone (psycho)... i know i know to lock her but i feel that would telling them how important her comments are to me and i want to do just otherwise..

He continues to moon around.. listening to music of love and longing..
do wish he gets a transfer to OW city and figure out whether he truly has a life with her or not..

till then we all are stuck

[Raine]

That is creepy. I blocked ow because I don't want to see their comments and likes and I don't want them seeing pics of the kids that I post. I don't care if they notice or read anything into it. It's for my benefit. I don't want to have the negative feelings.

[hoper]

Hey Raine,

thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts..
Yes initially not blocking her was me trying to guage her reaction to my posts.As pointed out by the vets it takes away unneccesary time and energy..

I am not that much off a FB person anyways ..put up something may on a monthly basis..

figured blocking her does not really make her go away..and weird that she is all she does is compliments!! i chose to acknowledge other friends who comment and ignore her.. If she dosent get it too bad for her..

[BRNR]

Hi h1-am curious how you are Freinds with her in the first place?

At least you are ignoring her, but for how long?

If I were you, I would probably do the same thing...funny how your H was all over your post of the family pic. But why did you feel the need to post it?

Hoper1 star focusing more on you. I was told this over and over and still told this to this day, and it does help.

[hoper]

Thanks b for looking in..i know this sounds like Mr and Mrs mlc here

lost a post yesterday..

She friended us both after we met on a trekking trip..
H looked her up when he traveled to her city..she has come over with her s .. All so very sick ...
Have ignored her since aug 12 since I learned off the A..

Anyways the only reason I put up those pics ( I genuinely believe this) is that I didn't want to put up pics without h.. Either i put with him or none at all...All the pics were great .. Wanted to share...hence I put one of h and s and a couple of family.. The rest were me and s..

I guess I wanted to tell him that u are my family even though he doesn't consider meso... Debated a lot.. Knew it comes across as pursuit.. But didn't want to accommodate his feelings ...

Update..

His fury abated, sends me atext with a joke..
Initiated LM twice.. Then next morning says he feels guilty and that I should be going to visit counselor..

Meanwhile job threat looms large.. Smoking everyday .. Back pain everyday..

We keep ticking all the MLC boxes..