How do I address my main pressing issue. That she completely withdrew over a comment I made, did not bring up comment to me until several weeks after it was made (and trip to bahamas) and hasn't spoke to me for 2 months about the issue.[b] Don't you find that behavior odd. [/b] No one here thinks it's normal or healthy. It IS odd.
And I for one do not believe she withdrew "because" of a comment you made. She was FEELING however she was feeling and she chose a passive aggressive comment you made weeks earlier, and for which she already publicly snapped at you, as a ruse.
That way it "explains it all" but i would not give it any validity by pretending it's the real reason.
I do understand detaching completely. But I feel to make progress a communication channel needs to be opened
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You do NOT "understand detaching completely". No offense but I mean, you have not done it.
YES I get how hard it can be, but to say you "understand it" and then ask if you can compliment a well made meal, (an earlier post of yours this week)
is just one example of your inability to detach and not knowing what is a normal upbeat thing to say, versus pursuit versus detachment.
Bottom line is, if you could detach with her under the same roof, you would not be here with this issue and desire to converse about her silence, again.
Right? Saying "to make progress, some communication channels need to be open" is not a revelation to any of us.
We know that^^ is true. But you're being stonewalled. So now what?
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