New and need encouragement

[Not Quitting]

Detaching isn't easy and pulling back is even harder. When he did BD, he said we'd drifted apart and he didn't feel part of the family any more. How is pulling back going to help? Won't that be adding to the reason H is unsure whether he wants to work things out?

Giving him space isn't a problem. I've never stopped him going out or even questioned where he's going, so no change needed there. It hurts to know he might be with her, but I'm trying to make sure that he doesn't see the tears any more.

Help, I really need encouragement and advice from the vets here. I haven't been able to read the books yet - they're both on order but should be here within the next week.