Its tough; getting tougher

[amy1982]

In answer to whether my H suffered trauma...I believe he has never fully dealt w/ his childhood trauma. He is bitter at his mom & doesn't want to see her. They had a reasonable (I thot good) R at the time of our M but he has gotten increasingly bitter toward her. He also can,t stand his half sis & half bro. His Moms side of the family tends to hold grudges 4ever & its becoming more prominent in my H. My H admits he realizes he tends to run from problems & avoid working thro issues.
Some of the stress in our marriage has been because we met & married in a conservative church setting & I took for granted that's where we would stay. Little by little that has changed & now my H goes to bars, etc. There's little resemblance to the way we were when we got married. I tried to support & change w/ him which has not always been easy. It seemed like his buddy had more influence on him than I did. Hey just think of all the liberties & fun he had. I use to be bitter at him & his W but I realized that only made my H defend him more.
On a positive note my H is a super provider of income, is the best boss anyone could ask for, is talented in almost every way...he's a good guy at heart..just maybe a little lost & full of pain he's never dealt with. I love him.