Yes Kaffe..there is def something bizarre w/ my H buddy. This guy is turned on by his wife having sex w/ other guys. I know shes had at least 15 other guys since theyre married & he's good w/ it. So guess why I have a hard time being good friends w/ them. As far as why my H is so thick w/ them...IMO..acceptance is VERY important to my H & they give it because they don't really stand for anything whereas I tend to consider the effect certain movies, music, friends etc will have on our family & he felt I am too stiff & narrowminded. They are more inclined to live for the moment, go to bars, consider it normal to be very free physically w/ others, flirt etc. So I tried to fit in because who wants to be a square? My H & I got married in a setting that was very controlled & men & women were very reserved then we moved. I got very confused in trying to find a balance. Anyway, I feel I am clearer on that & am prepared to avoid EA & PA. I may be wrong but it seems to me the more confident you are in your worth & value, the less likely you are to succumb to having an affair to feel good. I asked my H the other day if he ever worries that I might have another A. His reply, "I guess I don't really care." He has never acted jealous if other men come on to me which I have never understood. I always wished he would be & told him so on different occasions.
H;30 M;31 M9yr D9 D7 D3 H EA 2009 EA 11 Me PA 2012 H-ILYBNIL 5/13 in EA maybe PA
