I spent the day prior to the wedding with DD. She needed shoes so we spent the day shopping (X never took her although X requested the dress be at her house a week prior to wedding to prepare and shop for shoes). I had taken DS shopping for his shoes two days prior. We had a great time. I bought her a total of three pair of shoes (scored major points) and also went to lunch a shopped for costume jewelry, unrelated to wedding.
Both DS and DS attended wedding and had a blast. DD even helped decorate my vehicle.
Wedding was picture perfect. Wife's parents live on 200 acres of rural property. They built a rustic Cazebo in the yard with their pond as a background. I hung a chandelier from the Cazebo that wife ordered. Country bar be que was served under the pavilion after the ceremony. A line of thunderstorms threatened, preventing some from attending but split as it approached the area. It rained to the north and south but not where where we were until the ceremony was over and we were eating under the pavilion.
My dear wife made both the brides and grooms cakes including hand sculpting the cake topper of two bluebirds. I did not see them until after ghe wedding and i was blown away.....OK, I admit she is an artist and I am massively proud of her.
Drama moment was when DD and wife's daughter disagreed about what would be written on vehicle. Wife's daughter erased what DD and another bride 's maid had written on vehicle and it was "on". DD said, "This is why I will never live in the same house with her." There is much "alpha female sibling rivalry/princess syndrome" issues at play. I actually felt good observing this as it will resolve itself as they mature (IMHO).
On the reality check side I picked up my father's day gift from my kids today. We spent the afternoon of Father's Day together but they left the gift at X's. There was a food item included and DS remarked, "You can take them with you and share them with your family."......ouch. I hugged him and told him, "You are my family."
I'm spending the day with DS tomorrow. I'm also making a counseling appointment with the C they are currently seeing and we saw before wedding.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
