Looking to keep hope alive

[ALF213]

I get the angle you want me to take, HS. I appreciate you taking the time to reply. I did confront her about her EA about 6 weeks ago. She was sad, worried, apologetic. She said she would stop contact. Then she did a 180 the next day. A few days later she said she wanted to D. Things progressed quickly in the wrong direction.

Then I read DR. It said if something doesn't work, do the opposite. So I started working on myself and pretended the OW didn't exist. I don't know if this is right or not, but the other option seemed to sending me on a fast track to D. I may still be on that track or prolonging the inevitable. I wish I knew what the right move is here, but I don't.

You mentioned her pointing out my faults as a sign she is still looking for something. She did this twice in the last week. Both times she did it in a calm, sort of sad, manner.I listened and validatded. Not sure if its progress or not. I just try to keep focusing on me. It lessens the rollercoaster.