Since I'd decided to notarize the forms, H was able to go to the courthouse today and finalize everything. Even though he knew I was at work and that's why I'd decided to let him do it by himself, he sent me several, increasingly agitated texts asking for our wedding date and date of separation.
Once I saw the messages, I answered and then went right into reading out loud to a summer reading club and once I finished, an hour later, more messages asking for my SSN, place of birth, and address so that it could be finalized.
I thought it was somewhat funny because all of this information was on the application for divorce that he filled out in April, after asking me for all of the answers. So he apparently went to court completely unprepared and without the paperwork.
It's done. I cried a little on the way home from work, but really not much has changed. He hasn't wanted to work on us for a long time and now I can give up the hope that he'll change and just move on.
Afterward, H called me to say that he still wants to be friends because he can't lose the good people he has in his life. I told him that would depend on his actions and that I'd let him take the lead because he chose to leave and I'm not going to chase after him for anything.
After a long two years, I guess I'll have to start a new thread in Surviving the Big D if I still feel the need to post.
I am so thankful to all of you who posted to me and those who shared their stories, letting me know that I'm not the only one going through this.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
