Do you know your wife's LL? Sex is emotional for women. As Dr. Phil says "Women need a reason, men need a place". This may not always apply, but in a LTR I believe it does.
When H and I are "separated" and then come back together, he always wants to have a lot of sex. I have no problem with that when things are good, however, when we are first trying to fix things it does feel like pressure. And when he isn't speaking my LL, it it is a turnoff, it feels like what I want doesn't matter at all.
I have also gone out w/H, had a great time, lots of laughs and not wanted to have sex after (of course, many times I have, too) because on the way home it starts to feel like an expectation and that can be a turnoff, too.
Part of the pressure can also be in her head. If you aren't approaching her but she knows she "needs to" have sex with you, she may be pressuring herself to initiate it.
H and I used to play a game of sorts that we read in a M book. We had a little shiny red heart and I would place it on his nightstand and then he would have up to 3 days to initiate sex. Then the heart was his until he placed it on my nightstand and I had up to 3 days to initiate. I don't ever remember either of us waiting once we saw it, and it actually increased our sex life a LOT! You don't have to tell W how you know, just say you feel hesitation from her and suggest this idea.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
