Sure you speak, how much depends on your goal with the talk...if it's to push for resolution now, then say your peace, allow for her response (if any) and go about your business elsewhere.
If it's to get her to maybe open up a bit, then if she dodges your questions or statements (truth darts), and changes subject, etc, just roll with it and ask her to tell you more, etc. when it feels like enough (she will most likely give clues when she has) or you feel YOU have had enough, then end it with something lite and FRIENDLY such as "it was good checking in with you, I'll be in the garage working on X if you want to talk more" sorta thing and leave the room.
Remember "The Power of STFU"...the art of silence is very powerful in discussions..especially if you tend to go on and on trying to get some sort of resolution or such like I do/did...
Here's some tips I posted on my thread for myself:
Madelyn Burley-Allen offers these guidelines for empathic listening:
--Be attentive. Be interested. Be alert and not distracted. Create a positive atmosphere through nonverbal behavior. --Be a sounding board -- allow the speaker to bounce ideas and feelings off you while assuming a nonjudgmental, non-critical manner. --Don't ask a lot of questions. They can give the impression you are "grilling" the speaker. --Act like a mirror -- reflect back what you think the speaker is saying and feeling. --Don't discount the speaker's feelings by using stock phrases like "It's not that bad," or "You'll feel better tomorrow." --Don't let the speaker "hook" you. This can happen if you get angry or upset, allow yourself to get involved in an argument, or pass judgment on the other person. --Indicate you are listening by: ----Providing brief, noncommittal acknowledging responses, e.g., "Uh-huh," "I see." ----Giving nonverbal acknowledgements, e.g., head nodding, facial expressions matching the speaker, open and relaxed body expression, eye contact. ----Invitations to say more, e.g., "Tell me about it," "I'd like to hear about that." --Follow good listening "ground rules:" Don't interrupt. Don't change the subject or move in a new direction. Don't rehearse in your own head. Don't interrogate. Don't teach. Don't give advice. Do reflect back to the speaker what you understand and how you think the speaker feels.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
