T2 thanks. I'm truly not sure what my W is. She is 42,SAHM, who WAS married to a terrible H (me). She is definitely a hormonal stress ball.

Thanks for the tip. Like I said my goal is not necessarily R talk. Just need to stop fearing talking to her because of D word. I truly appreciate the feedback.

I always feel like I'm scared of rocking the boat and that isn't healthy either.

for example, I might go home and she being nice to me so I won't bring it up etc..