Hi all I'm new to the thread but really need some insight on my situation. And you guys seem to be so knowledgeable. I'm am really wondering if my situation is in fact a mid life crisis or if he really just wants to leave
My story.....
My husband and I some issues for sometime, but nothing major(so I thought), he has been angry for awhile I blamed it on the PTSD. We started drifting away earlier this year him sleeping on the couch me in the bedroom, this wasn't uncommom sometimes we just needed space and it would work itself out.
Well this time he came to me and said he wasn't happy and he wanted out he said my daughter his step put him through so much he can't get over (she's 22 and out of the house now). I was shocked, devastated, angry, all of the above. For the next few weeks he wouldn't speak to me or look me in the eye. I told him I missed him and didn't want a divorce he wouldn't even respond just looked through me.
At this point I started looking for an apartment, because we have a business in which he runs (but it doesn't make any money), I've worked since it started so we could survive. So financially I am the only one that has the money to look for a place.
During memorial day weekend I was planning on going to my mothers because I found out she was ill, my car broke down so I had no way up there. He planned a trip to a friends that weekend as well I explained my situation and he basically didn't care. He went anyway and took the other car.
A week later was his birthday he stayed out all night and when he returned he was very smug about it. I told him he wasn't going to disrespect me while I'm still in the house so he needed to leave until I move. The following day I found the cards given to him by OW (talk about devastated). Not sure how long he's been seeing her, but it had to be sometime. He was very arrogant about this as well, like my feelings didn't even matter.
I am very close with my inlaws, so they called me over. He was staying with them at the time. His mother said he is angry all the time and won't even talk to them. He comes in the house and acts like they don't exist. The same treatment he is giving me.
A few days ago he asked me if I could move earlier because he had no place to stay (his parents got fed up with the treatment). I told him to stay with OW he said it's not like that whatever. I asked him what happend with his parents and he said you talk to them more than me so you go ask them. I told him that is one relationship he needed to fix because his parents are all he has (he's an only child). He told me he wants to be a loner this next chapter of his life.
Sorry for the long post. I would really appreciate some input.
