first time(&last) & still need help

[RosaLinda]

Thanks for checking on me Nero. I came by and scanned through your sitch too. 

These men make it so hard, don't they? I keep thinking maybe my H ISN'T having a MLC, maybe he's just turned into a philandering liar. Wouldn't the right thing for them to do be to come to their spouse and say "look I have fallen in love with someone else, I'm leaving"? 

Something you wrote made a big impression on me: "i don't consider lying and infidelity to be "changes of age". i find that to be changes of moral values & worth. did that make sense? chucking your integrity is not a normal "changes with age". imho - THAT is quite something else."

Do people suddenly turn their back on all of their moral and ethical beliefs? I don't think so. I guess our H's actions, like their affairs and the crazy things, such as  your H flying to NJ to fix a shelf, show that there is something terribly wrong. 

MLC seems to be the answer. Maybe it's not Nero, but for now the thought that maybe my H might turn his life around, and that he might love me again someday,  is what gives me the hope to keep standing. Until I can't stand anymore. 

Hang in there. We'll get through this together.