It's interesting, KD. My H ran away from his first wife (no kids) 25 years ago, also right before Christmas. During the D process (or maybe once it was finalized) he tried to reconcile out of "loneliness." From his description she seemed like a lovely young woman. He was also close with her family. It seems he ran away due to his own failures and shame.
I don't know why I'm pondering this still. I guess the rejection is the hardest part to heal from. It hurts that he tried to R with his wife of only three years, but our children and 19 years aren't worth it. So, maybe the grass really is greener, IDK. I don't want to mind read or make assumptions, but in all the time he's been gone I haven't gotten even an inkling that he would consider R. He has only said that the D process can be stopped at any time if he changed his mind and I was receptive. Painful!
