I feel like H slowly distanced himself from me, so he would have to slowly work his way back towards me. Don't want to spook the guy lol!
But now that he is becoming slightly receptive to touching me, I feel I need to adjust how I approach him, and try to build on that.
I believed this has helped keep us connected. And I have often thought what you said - that they are getting everything that they want, so why change?
I also believe that is exactly what needs to happen. He may be getting exactly what he wants, but he still isn't happy. His health is worse than ever, he doesn't sleep. Her true colors are showing, and they aren't exactly a beautiful rainbow lol!
I agree with you. He has to figure this out for himself. My xh told me that exact thing. He realized that he wasnt any happier in the affair and that is when the affair ended.
You should always see what works and tweak it. I think you are on the right track with having h engage in some physical touch with you when appropriate. And I do feel you are doing a lot of what the db coach told Galbaby, with small touches, eye contact and doing things as a family.
T, you are so intuitive. You know your h and your sitch best. And believe me, your h knows that you are not ok with this. Deep in his jello brain. LOL!
