It seems that the majority of MLCers either remain at home or try to keep some type of relationship going, at least for awhile, with the LBS. Mine would avoid me at all costs. From a distance I've received periodic acknowledgement and offers of additional financial support, but he has never wanted to see or speak to me on any kind of social level. I don't think he's ever asked me how I am which amazes me considering I am the one raising our children on my own. For the first six months post-bd I tried to by upbeat and keep a connection when he picked up the boys (this was after begging him to come home, etc.) After he moved in with OW ("to save money") he started avoiding me, but would say nice things in between spewing episodes. I'm being careful not to make this about me, but I do feel hurt that he treats me like this horrible person that he can't have anything to do with, but has moments when he seems to acknowledge who I really am. Is this likely about his own guilt and conflicting feelings or does he really despise me? Any guesses?
