"That's why it's not uncommon for there to be several "false starts" when it comes to recovery. It's usually not until the LBS gets fed up with their lack of trying and actually become the WAS that things start changing.
Crimson - I'm not usually the one to blow sunshine up your youknowwhat and I won't do it here. I've always believed that your level of detachment has been insufficient to "really" get things back on track. And to be honest, I am angry for you for the way that your Ex has been stringing you along. She dumped you once and broke your heart and then she did it again! That is just plain cruel!!
Bond is right. You really need to consider moving on and getting your life back. Not because things are hopeless. But because if you don't you will be consumed by this messed up relationship with your Ex and before you know it another 2 years will pass you by and you will still be waiting and hoping and wondering...
Go get you life back, Crimson. Live your new normal and see where things end up. But you really need to stop looking over your shoulder.
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
