Swede... Just remember something... The settlement and stuff... I told my W, "This is just the business end of the divorce. It is nothing personal. I have an obligation to myself to make myself as financially whole as possible."
Something I learned from my first D... giving stuff away or conceding on stuff does not make you look like a good guy. There is nothing honorable about being a pushover. You will need to make compromises with each other. Be firm but fair.
Your tool box will be shiny new and full of the right tools when you are done.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter