Let my love open the door...

[Raine]

Bea, I completely see this in my H too. I'm realizing this is not about any "who" for him, it is a total addiction. He does not want me to know and get hurt, but I also think a big part of it is the secrecy high, the secret life, another compartment. My guess is there have been flirtatious and the first physical encounter was late 2010, with it really upsetting him and him being good for a few years. And then it went full blown crazy with lots of OW almost exactly two years later. The thing that is also weird to me is his hold back on full sex with them...I don't understand the hold back on that.

My H does feel inferior to me. This came up before BD and continues to come up. This could be a "not you it's me" tactic though.

I think that was so sweet that you did that magnet! I'm sure that meant a lot to him. I'm so impressed with you and how you handle yourself TVS!