Crimson.....Holy smokes, I'm piecing,

[MrBond]

"She would go online, buy a book, get advice or at the very least try something different. "

Not really. Things like relationships to a WAS are all about "feelings". They think it's almost unnatural to have to look for outside help for something they think should come automatically.

That's why it's not uncommon for there to be several "false starts" when it comes to recovery. It's usually not until the LBS gets fed up with their lack of trying and actually become the WAS that things start changing.