Some update, which I can really use some advice on.
A little more detail to our story; husband is getting citizenship under our marriage. It was a good faith marriage to begin with, but I fear he's postponing the divorce solely to complete his year left for naturalization. If this is the reason he is staying, he can very well play along good family and then leave.
His mother has been trying to separate us from day one. My second time meeting her she wanted to kick me out of our apartment (prior to being married). She stood in front of our door and screamed her lungs off in front of our neighbors for me to get my stuff out. H had to slam the door on her so she could go away. She still has a huge influence on him. She's a drama queen and likes to create a lot of her own drama. I try to avoid confrontation because I don't want to get involved in any of it. For the longest time she refused to call me by my name referring to me as "your wife" to my h. Last time she said separating would be good for us as she thinks we are too co-dependent on each other. (This is when we were doing good in our marriage). Who the hell says that to a married couple?! So H comes home after visiting them this weekend, and decides he wants a physical separation as soon as possible and not a divorce. I'm sure his mother influenced his decision on this, but when it comes down to it he's a big boy. It just makes me build resentment towards both of them. He said he didn't want a divorce and felt he can only work on our marriage if he moved away. Well, preferably he wants me to move away. I'm mid summer school and working in a lab and he expects me to just up and walk away with finals coming up in two weeks. I feel as if my school will suffer for this, and I have to constantly maintain focus. My question is this. I know most of you will say let him leave, and let him work on it. I feel like he's prolonging the divorce for the sole purpose of citizenship and that's not the reason why he should lie to me about working things out. Maybe I'm being paranoid? It is entirely possibly because I'm not sure what to think at this point. Is it really true that one can work on a marriage better if they leave? Has anyone experienced this? Thank you for your thoughts. Hopefully I'll get the DB book before the week is up. I have to play catch up before I make all the wrong decisions.
It's also nice to vent here. Thanks for listening.
