TVS, I am trying to wait my H's A out and let it die a natural death also. It's easier for me because she's over in Russia now, but I'm not looking forward to their next conjugal visit in Sept. A year and a half is a long time to keep standing during a PA. Especially with an ex-friend. T^2 is right, you DO rock!
It's great, very wise I think, that you are thinking about which needs Twinkle fills, looking for little ways to reconnect with your H, and giving him lots of positive reinforcement. My DB coach advised me to touch my H a couple of times a day, a hand on the arm, touch the shoulder, but he's really skittish about it still. But I keep doing it LOL!
I'm going to try and think of what needs RT fills. Besides her tasty oatmeal recipes I mean How do you go about it though? Is it because you know Twinkle? I would only be guessing, no idea of what it could be besides admiration and stuff like that, which I also give him now.
Bea -- what do you mean when you say you wish that you had tolerated less, and stood up for yourself more? What do you wish you had done differently? Kicked him out?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
How do you go about it though? Is it because you know Twinkle? I would only be guessing, no idea of what it could be besides admiration and stuff like that, which I also give him now. 
