Did my first coaching call this morning, what a GREAT outlet to have, and I HIGHLY recommend it to anyone on the fence about it. A lot of what I have/had been doing is correct. The 180 isn't all about detaching, but more about doing the opposite of what I wasn't doing previously. Listen and Validate!!!neutral and distant isn't always the answer, but it can change depending on the moods swings. The personal tweaking from coaching helps figure out when and where those tweaks help the best for your own situation. While also helping find yourself in those difficult times.
Well im finding out that a spouse still in the house is really an advantage, and doesn't speed or slow things up in any way. That word patience comes up over and over again. Thank goodness I started doing the 180 for myself a few weeks ago, with some minor tweaks due to some of the reading in Divorce Busters. Another source that people must have to help deal with, and help establish goals (even if there just for "self") for the situation.
I'll keep posting any updates, or heck just journal here and there as things happen. I'm off to work, then the gym. Heres hoping all of you are taking care of yourselves, and positive things are happening in your lifes. If not, keep your chin up, as there is always tomorrow.
