Gunny, yes I too have felt the anger and betrayal. In my mind X said “I can’t”, quit, abandoning our relationship just as the road and obstacles ahead were clearly in view. I have likened this to quitting with the objective in sight and attainable.
The thing is we cannot dwell upon the anger. We need to experience it, process it and move past it. I boxed mine for a time while I sorted out other issues. It could not stay boxed. I must be dealt with.
Recent events brought her abandonment to the forefront again and it was here that I did not feel anger. For I finally understand that I deserve better than who she was.
You deserve better also.
What has helped me is making a list of what this life event has enabled me to do, to become, to experience, how it has helped me to grow. I find positives and express gratitude to myself about the positives. I have not graduated to professing gratitude yet. I have reached a plateau of sorts here. I realize this is another growth opportunity.
My X has also gotten the new car, the new house, and maybe a new partner. With those come new debt, and someone else’s baggage. I know she is no more capable of dealing with these than she was before and I deserve better.
So do you.
Semper Fidelis
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
