Hi sweetie, believe me, the magnet meant a lot to him. And I think it was a perfect gift.
I am not surprised that everyone loved your dinner.
As far as his mother, I think that she is not done as far as saying something to him. Too bad for him. His problem.
You know, I always said that a MLC was not a get out of jail free card. That at the end of the day, my xh was responsible for his actions.
I do believe, though, that it is a crisis and so, there is a chip broken and they cant reconcile the guilt, the depression and the bandaid that is the affair.
It is all scrambled up in their jello brains.
The hope is that they eventually can reconcile it all.
As far as the texting, well, in my situation the affair was out of the bag and I am a little nuts.LOL! Hence, the making of the outfits for the cell phone and inviting it to Thanksgiving dinner. LOL!
You can try to do something different like saying, "Would you mind not texting when we are talking as it is rude?" And see how it goes. My guess it that he will either get a little snippy or will say ok. I can tell you it will probably not stop so you might just be spinning your wheels.
While I would not ever disagree with Snodderly, I do think that going to where he says he is playing golf would not be the way I would go. Simply because he will make up some excuse as to why he wasnt there and then get angry. Not that it matters if he gets angry, because it doesnt. But, I am not sure it would serve any real purpose except to get you upset.
I know this is so difficult for you. I wish that it wasnt. You just take it one day at a time. Live your life. You will know without a single doubt if or when it is time to move on.
And if you do, you will know in your heart that you did everything you possibly could to save your marriage and your family. And that matters, T. It matters.
