I have decided to make a point of being alert for an opportunity to make a positive comment to my wife each day. This has evolved from a suggestion by Kaffe Diem to make a list of the things that i like/admire/value/etc about my W. Is this at odds with detaching, or otherwise the wrong thing to be doing? I have tried it a couple of times since resolving to do so.
I have tried to be honest with myself as to my motives, and i believe that i am acting without expectation. I am just worried that i may be unconsciously ???? (insert unhealthy behaviour here) i don't know what.... aarrggh, i am prone to being over analytical.
Me: 49 W: 47 M: 19 T: 25 Son:19 Dau:13 Son:6 BD: Aug: 2012 Separated - same house: May, 2013 Ultimatum to move out: Dec 2013 W looking to move out: January 2014 Dau says go, I move out: June 2014
