Keep the kitten? Absolutely not. Because for one thing it has disappeared. For another thing we already have 2 cats, and 2 dogs. For another thing H doesn't like cats. Detests might be a better word. Pets are one of the biggest things we argue about. I have vowed to never get another pet as long as I am with H.
Currently, my dog is causing big problems. He really is, its not all in H's head. Although, I think H is partly responsible. Back in 2009 when we were getting ready to move here H had started talking about getting a doberman. And he finally did. Everyone meet Zeus. Zeus is a great dog. He does bark non stop outside unless he has his bark collar on. And he is fear-aggressive, so if we have anyone over Zeus is out back in the dog pen. But other than that, and well, an annoying habit of getting in the kitchen garbage, Zeus is a fantastic family dog.
And after H got Zeus, I thought it might be nice if Zeus had a brother, and I have long wanted a Keeshond. Everyone meet Brady. (And if you don't know what a Keeshond looks like, do a google. They are frikkin adorable!!) I okayed the purchase of Brady with H. He said ok.
But now it turns out that I only got Brady to "take away from Zues". Idk how this works. Zeus has his own chair and ottoman in the living room. Brady isn't allowed on the furniture. Zeus sleeps on a blanket in our bedroom. Brady sleeps in his crate under the stairs. Every time Brady does anything displeasing H tells me to get rid of him. (He went through about a year of telling me to get rid of Zeus too. This is typical H behavior. A long time ago we had a doby mix, rescue dog, had been abused. I advised against getting her because I know how much work such a dog takes, and I know sometimes they never get completely readjusted. But H got her, and spent a few months really babying her - she slept in our bed, head on the pillow. But she did indeed only "come so far" so H lost interest, and wanted to get rid of her. I refused. She became my dog. Until she twice bit a neighbor girl. Not a bad bite either time, but with a house full of 4 grade-school kids and their friends, it was clear what had to be done. So I did it. By myself. And, "Why are you crying? Its just an animal!")
H constantly refers to Brady as a waste of space, stupid, bad, furbag (and if you've seen a keeshond you know that last one's true lol) and talks to him in a "mean voice" if he talks to him at all. Brady is not neutered, because it "would be a waste of money since he's already so gay".
So now Brady has become aggressive against Zeus. Not a good idea, Zeus =85 pounds, Brady =40. And even H has observed that there does seem to be some jealousy from Brady re Zeus. So H had me google aggressive dog behavior. And among other issues we found that yes jealousy can play a part and that the "alpha" needs to offer inclusion to all members of "the pack".
But H (who of course is the alpha lol)"doesn't want to include that ugly fur bag". So Idk what to do. I think I may have to get rid of Brady
And don't get me started on the cats... this is long enough already. Suffice it to say I'm glad H hasn't followed through on his threat to poison them. Idk if he actually would, I think he's mostly just talk. I've never seen him abuse an animal. But he'll complain about them ad nauseum.
This has gotten pretty long. Breaking post.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
