I can't imagine what it's like to look someone right in the face and lie, over and over either. All of our Hs were formerly good men or else we wouldn't be here trying to hold it together- this constant lying must eat at their souls. They must be able to rationalize their actions somehow to be able to live with themselves. The "I deserve it" rationalization? Or maybe like you said, being with OW makes your H feel good for a little while. These OW must fill some need. But if he suffers such guilt and remorse afterwards....WHY would he keep putting himself through that?
I adore chocolate but it gives me a migraine headache. I am often tempted to eat some but the memory of hours of pain is worse than the thought of the delicious taste of some chocolate in my my mouth for less than a minute. It must be the MLC disconnect that keeps them going back.
Thanks for your friendship and patience in helping me stand taller stronger and better
