I went dark for two months after finding out that H was seeing someone. Communication between us started shortly after that. It gave me a chance to work on myself, because I was so unhappy with the situation and mad etc.and depressed.
I did what was best for me at the time with really no thought of " will this drive my H further away?" Anyways, to where? Lol, he was gone...
Difference though, I had younger kids, so he would be in touch once in a while, although during that period he rarely saw them.
I think it comes down to doing what is best...for you.
