I hear you HWA. There is no rhyme or reason to why our S's act like they do. We embark on this journey, knowing that there are no guarantees, even though we are willing to try anything to get them back. Some of us get another chance, others don't. You are a person like me, who does all the right things and then expects everything to fall into place, of course it doesn't always work that way and we get frustrated and disappointed. There is no easy answer, and you are free to go whichever way you please.
You can try to talk sense into your W, but you may end up regretting that, and you may not. Honestly, there is no simple answer. You are trying all you can, but you also need to remember to give things time. You have made a decision to go dark, maybe you are hoping your W will make contact with you and because she has not, you are second guessing your decision. Its tough stuff. I love this board, but I also got confused by it. That's why I just made a decision to go with what the book and my coach advised.
It paid off for me, but I also took a leap of faith, not exactly advised here, but you do what is in your heart also.
Keep posting, you are doing great. Take good care of yourself, as I know you are. You are doing the best you can.
