SD,
Forgive me as I'm not up to date on your sitch.

BUT

If you P is giving you signals saying to give her space.. that is exactly what you do.

I know you feel like crap to not do it, but it's even crappier to not respect her wishes.

Maybe her birthday will come and she will notice you didn't wish her a happy birthday. Maybe it will bother her... maybe it won't.

But at least love her well by letting her go. Love her well by giving her the opportunity to look in the mirror.. by getting out of the way.

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.