Really? I think we, as adults, can deal. It's hurtful anD crazy making for sure, but I think ultimately we heal and go on.
But what your H is doing to your kids is not okay.. So you will remain their constant, their steadying hand, in their lives.
Marie is right about the food banks etc. get strong, look to your future and your kids. Your kids like cell phones, want cell phones, they don't need them. Your H is being a (fill in blank here). What you can control, do so. Take away any potential for the childish controlling behaviour he has been exhibiting.
If H wants to take dinner, suggest he pick up groceries and you will cook. That way maybe you get some food in the house.
Sorry about the funeral. I got no nothing on that behaviour....
