It's been more than a week sine we heard from XH - and I find myself trying to mind-read, so I thought I'd come here and re-set my thinking.
Last saw XH when he ran out on D17 before driving her to an out-of-town party last Sat night.
He's also left both kids without credit on their phones, and they are upset about this too - as they can't contact their friends. Teens without phones are out of the loop these days.
Anyway, I find my mind turning over what he might be thinking - is there some hope that he might be in withdrawal? Is he embarrassed/ ashamed of what he did and can't bring himself to re-contact us? ETC.
All pointless. Just need to keep focusing on us, but the longer the NC goes on, the harder it seems to keep my mind from speculating.
Apparently XH did ring home on Sat afternoon. I was out with D17, but S14 answered. He claimed XH asked what S14 was doing "today, tomorrow and next week". S14 claims he said "Nothing", and then XH said "OK, then" and hung up.
Sounds strange to me, but if i had to account for it, I'd say XH is still firmly in 'victim mode'. But there I go again.
I went to another school quiz night on the weekend - we came 2nd, so lots of joy!
Before I went, had to tell my friend why XH wasn't going with me.
He teared up when i told him, and immediately said there is something wrong, mentally / psychologically. XH would never have behaved like this.
Maybe it's the way i tell it, but every friend of ours that I've told says the same thing.
Wish XH's parents could see it. They have also gone NC since the funeral that we didn't attend. i suspect XH told them a grand story about why we didn't go.
Anyway, got all that off my chest, so hope I don't have to keep thinking about it.
