I've been processing... I found the exit interview to be unsatisfactory. Finally have come to trust my own assessment of things. And accept P's truth as hers.
Today, I also asked my BFF for her take on things - what she thinks went wrong. True, she mostly has had my input, but not entirely, and she's a keen observer. She nailed my biggest failings and identified a couple problems on P's end, one of which had been particularly stressful for me. I was surprised how much relief I felt to have that validated. Actually, I felt that way about the whole conversation.
P's birthday is in a few days. It seems like every signal I've received indicates that I should not acknowledge it (the biggest being that she did not acknowledge mine last month), but that feels like crap. Perhaps it would just add to her guilt at the moment. Sigh. Any thoughts appreciated...
