"I Love you but love her too"....WHAT?

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Snodderly, Your story about the plastic egg is hilarious. Bringing deputies with him? He was surely thinking about your personality and knowledge of the law when he invited them to accompany him to your home! I bet he wasn't happy when you chatted with the deputies while serving them snacks. I almost feel sorry for him. Well, not really but I say good for you. I hope it doesn't come to that for me. As to him showing up at your doorstep. I wouldn't count on him following in his father's footsteps. In the times that you've talked to him or have seen him, how has he acted towards you. Does he seem to have a clue as to what he's done? Does he act guilty or is he stuck in the same place as when he left all those years ago? I guess some have trouble admitting that they've made a mistake but maybe his experience with twinkle twat and helping her through her cancer treatments will wake him up.

Linda, Only four phone calls yesterday. No texts. I answered the last one late last night. He had left a message earlier in the day about coming by to make drinks and sit on the patio. I think he's looking for a Father's Day dinner. Not sure if I want him invading my space. After all he's not MY father but he is the father of our children so I guess I should at least acknowledge that. He's been a good father to them and up until recently haa been so good with the youngest one that that the disabilities. Many father's have trouble with special needs children and from what I've read nearly 50% of families with special needs children end in D. He is very protective of her yet right now I see him getting down at her level with the teenage behaviors. Several months ago they got into an argument. It was about something that she said to him. Typical defiant, teenage behavior (not unlike his right now) and he didn't like it. He pretty much lost it and told her that she was acting like a child and that he wasn't going to put up with it, blah, blah, blah. Yes, she needed to be confronted and corrected but not blasted. He ended up hanging up on her!

This morning I sat outside with my cup of coffee and enjoyed the silence and watched the birds at the feeders. We have a hummingbird feeder that was full of activity this morning. They are always entertaining and many times will come within a foot of my face and just "hover". Not just for a few seconds but for nearly a minute. Curious little creatures and so much fun to watch as the males chase the females away from the feeder.

I didn't give my h a Birthday card this year and am struggling with whether to give him a generic, non specific card thanking him for being a loving, caring father to the kids. Any ideas?

Hope that all of you fathers out there have a wonderful day with your families.