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[BklynMom]

I think it is important that we have role models and people we trust who will teach us the hard work involved in a marriage. I now appreciate that my parents didnt hide their arguments from us kids. We also knew they loved each other but also that they didn't always agree. I know my H parents never ever fought in front of the kids because it just wasnt proper.

I believe that my H never seeing his parents work on their marriage influenced his thinking.

I also think that marriage requires that each person be honest with themselves about their own needs and desires. I know I suppressed a lot of my wants while my H and I were together thinking that I could make him happy if I did things his way. I also know he suppressed many of his own feelings and eventually he imploded.