I don't know if you already had your talk or not but what I found to be very helpful when H and I finally had our first talk was listening, validating how he felt and explaining how I understood his feelings. I did not discuss my feelings or needs at all, just gave him what he needed.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13