I am at a loss on what to do anymore.

[stungBT]

It doesn't have to be. What happened?

I was so frustrated. We would have good moments but as I said he was sharing even less with me then before. Before we shared information to do with my stepdaughter and now he stopped doing that as well. I was hurt but more frustrated and of course asked about it.

Well that led to me stepping away from the situation but not before asking him if he was still unwilling to move. He said he would.

I don't think I am cut out for this. I know I screwed up but how do I recover?

[stungBT]

He told me tonight he is making finding a place to live his priority for the weekend.

After this we actually had a good talk about non-R stuff. It's sad. I am sad.

[stungBT]

Oh yeah he said he is unhappy and he want to try and connect with me but doesn't do now how.

[MrBond]

"he said he is unhappy and he want to try and connect with me but doesn't do now how."

Dropping the OW would have been a good start for him. He's confused. Don't take it personally. This is all on him. He thinks the outside stuff is going to make him happy. It won't. Have you confronted him yet on the OW?

[stungBT]

I have confronted him. He says I won't see her. Blah blah blah then he sees her.

I am no longer spying but today I was driving home from the store and I passed the two of them on the road. I said something to him and he said I'm stupid. It wasnt planned.

[stungBT]

So I am not fighting the move. He took OW with him househunting yesterday. Today I started going through the kitchen stuff and separating things.

He is being quiet, sullen and mad today. He is nice to his daughter which is good but not nice at all to me.

I don't know what to do. Everyone tells me its time for us to separate that I have given him more then enough time to get a clue.

[stungBT]

Has anyone come back together after an OW and separation?

[stungBT]

He went out tonight. He says when I'm home he feels like he is caged and doesn't like accounting to me on his whereabouts. Normal?

[stungBT]

Its been a couple of days since he went out. He was gone for over 5 hours. I didn't wait up but I did hear he and his daughter around 11 laughing.

I went out yesterday - ran errands and saw a movie. He never questioned my wearabouts or called or texted while I was gone. I felt very alone.

You know I find it interesting that he says he is caged. Before OW, I was the type of wife that said go have fun with the guys just let me know if you will be super later or will miss dinner. I wasn't concerned. I figured everyone needed some time. Now everytime he goes out, I question it - I don't always qustion it to him. Actually alot of times I don't question him. I think he is just making stuff up. I don't know.

[stungBT]

I don't want this anymore. I am tired of waiting for him to get his head out of the sand, I feel like giving up. He still hasn't told me about his new place or if he even has one