So Friday night, H is supposed to pick up the girls. He emails me earlier in the week saying the babysitter is going to pick up the girls and bring them to his place because he will be at work.
Cut to friday night, Girls dont want to leave with Babysitter when they know Mommy is home. So I call STBX and say hey maybe can you come pick them up after work even if its past their bed time because I dont want to get the kids upset. He seemed hesitate so I said why dont you think about it and call me back.
He calls back and says that he would be okay with picking them up later but he just doesn't want it to become a thing where they whine and get their way. He also tells me that I was the one that insisted on a schedule he wants to co-parent with no schedule. I say that I have been very accomadating to his schedule and if he had asked me to have the girls until 8:30 or 9. I would have been okay with that.
I also say the girls are only 3 & 4 of course they are going to cry when they leave home. He restated that they have to get used to leaving and this is what I wanted meaning a schedule.
I was getting a little hot under the collar and then said that I would have to talk to him later. And I was rash and almost hung up on him. I sent him a text saying sorry for cutting him off but I didnt want to have an upsetting conversation with him in front of the kids. STBX did not reply. He never replies to anything that is uncomfortable.
Today I am working. STBX has kids for the weekend. Today was the day of our block party. I didnt tell the girls about it because I knew STBX would not want to go. I had mentioned it in a email a few ago that the block party was this weekend but I wouldnt mention it to the girls.
The girls have heard murmurings from the kids on the block that the party was today and apparently they remembered. I hear from STBX that the babysitter is taking them to the block party this afternoon.
STBX doesnt go. He lets babysitter take them. They were probably crying and upset and were begging to go but H wont show his face on our block - he is too ashamed.
Sometimes I am so angry that my kids Dad is such a jerk. How can he feel good about himself as a father? I guess he doesnt. Everytime I see him he looks miserable.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
