Me 8 months on, dark and trying to detach.

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I tend to agree with you BF. I think my W is both MLC and WAS and the MLC is mild. I also think the MLC is more about or because of the "empty nest" syndrome. The kids have left home and the W is stuck with the husband who isn't the same one she married many years ago. Like you all I can do is be patient, accept what path we both take and let her go through this on her own.
In all honesty I know that no matter how much I try to detach, I fully won't.
There will always be things you hear, that you don't want to, but are blabbed out before you get a chance to put a stop to it. The other night had a chat with another teacher, first time having coffee together. Spent many hours talking about many different subjects. Then he suddenly just said, my son saw your wife holding hands with the EA friend at the local show last week. My heart dropped, the mind starts playing different scenario's. Being two women, holding hands doesn't mean anything, being in an EA relationship it may. Whatever, I just have to keep my head high and know I cannot do anything about it anyway.